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Wisdom from Avi ~ A Perfume that Gladdens the Master’s Heart

Avi Wisdom for Today

Today, as my Avi wisdom I am going to share a need – a need for a little girl that is still an orphan but loved and chosen by God for a very special family! This family needs help to bring her home. We know this family from a divine encounter at a medical appointment for one of our girls.

Today.15 weeks and 3 days since our princess went with Jesus. Yes I am counting not only the weeks but the days and hours as I wait to be running with Avi hand in hand. It is also one week until her 12th birthday – February 27th. Everything is as raw and painful as it was on that very first day. I am not a writer at heart. I don’t like to write. I would rather be outside running or pretty much doing anything else. But today I need to write.

Photo: Avi

Today, I read the book of Ecclesiastes in search of something. I did not find what I was searching for but I still stand on what I believe. The Bible is true – all of it! I believe that Jesus Christ died for my sins and that He rose again. The only song that we sang in church this week that held any meaning for me was “My Hope is Built On Nothing Less”

My hope is built on nothing less / Than Jesus Christ, my righteousness; / I dare not trust the sweetest frame, / But wholly lean on Jesus’ name. / On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand; /All other ground is sinking sand. / When darkness veils His lovely face, / I rest on His unchanging grace; / In every high and stormy gale, / My anchor holds within the veil. / His oath, His covenant, His blood, / Support me in the whelming flood; / When all around my soul gives way, / He then is all my hope and stay. / When He shall come with trumpet sound, / Oh, may I then in Him be found; / In Him, my righteousness, alone, / Faultless to stand before the throne.

I could share everything that is wrapped up in every tear I shed every day of missing her physically here with us but what I need to share is the importance and value of her life. Avi inspires us to do more – be a louder voice – help more – adopt more – love more – give more.

When we adopted Avi, we needed help to bring Avi home and someone gave. Someone gave the remainder of her adoption costs and to this day, I still do not know who that person was.

Today I am asking that in honor of our Avi that you would read this adoption story below and HELP! Please give and no amount is too small – all donations will be tax deductible and every penny will go directly to paying their costs to bring home their third daughter from China.

Online at: www.paypal.me/Tingministries OR

By check: Ting Ministries 29 East Poplar Street, Lebanon Pa 17042

Please note: For Mercy

A friend of mine has written so beautifully what is on my heart about a child with more severe special needs. I am the blessed one to have been given the gift of Avi and her sisters. I ask you to please read and share this story and gift with others.  Thank you from a very humbled heart -Stephanie

Mercy & Her Sisters: An Adoption Story

“Adoption. It’s always been on my heart to be family for children who need a mommy and daddy. Special needs children were always tugging at my heart. I yearned to nurture and love them, wanting them to see they have value and worth as a person.

So we began our journey of adoption summer of 2016 and brought home Miah from China, who had just turned 3 years old. Despite doctors’ predictions regarding her cerebral palsy and other medical challenges, she can now walk with the assistance of medical equipment. When we were in the process of her adoption there was another little girl whom we wanted to go back to adopt. So in September of that year we started the adoption process again. But the medical review was very negative, and when we received the update from the orphanage we were devastated. The report indicated extreme developmental impairment. We decided not to go ahead with her adoption, and I was determined to put this child out of my mind. We began to search for another child to bring home. In 2017 we brought home Malia at age 6 years old with cleft lip, cleft palate.

Miah and Malia

The summer of 2018 God spoke to me and said that we needed to go back and get the little girl we had said “no” to. I realized then that the decision we had made was based on fear and selfishness. I did not want to parent a child that would require lifelong care. You see, we are soon to be 56 and 57 years of age with four adult children. I wanted time to myself. But, I began to meditate on the fact that we are not our own, we are bought with a price by the blood of Jesus. I am not here for myself but to bring honor and glory to Him. I desperately needed to find out if this thought of returning for the child we had said “no” to was my own feeling or the Holy Spirit speaking to me. I had deleted all of this child’s information from my computer never to read it again. But I was able to recover all of her information and history by a few phone calls. As I read over and looked at the updated video I was no longer filled with fear. I had a peace about it. I started praying about it and that if it was the Lord telling me we needed to adopt her then my husband would have to agree. He did not. So I put her picture on the refrigerator and asked him to pray about her and then proceeded to write him a long letter detailing my own journey from fear to courage. I got down on my knees every day in front of that picture and prayed that the Lord would speak to my husband’s heart, since there was no way we could go ahead with this adoption if we were not of the same mind.

One morning as I was reading my devotions, I read, “He will refresh you with mercy”, and I knew right then we were to name her Mercy.

Satan did not want this little girl to come home and decided to ramp up his tactics. I was now facing much resistance from other family members. I asked a few prayer warriors to join me in the fight. But the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. I knew God was urging me to fight for this child despite the resistance.

A few months later my husband agreed to go ahead with the adoption. He had slowly realized that to say “no” to adopting this child would be disobedience and a sin since God was clearly asking us to bring her into our family.

Mercy’s sisters

Children with special needs have value. They are made perfect and designed just the way God wanted them to be. I want the world to see what they will add to our lives in regards to their gifts and strengths, and how they are wanted and valued, instead of what they take or require. We live in a society preoccupied with deficits as opposed to strengths. We need to dwell in possibility, helping our child thrive, respecting their timeline for development, setting a foundation for engaging our child’s gifts, whatever that may look like for the child, instead of trying to fix what is wrong. Many of these special needs children grow up and go on to accomplish great things.

But there are lives that come into the world neither to do great work nor to bear great burdens, but simply to be. They are the flowers of the garden which have no active mission. But they gladden the sight of Jesus. By their mere perfume, by their mere beauty, they have brought Him joy: by the very preservation of their loveliness in the valley they have lifted the Master’s heart.

Is adoption hard? Yes, but hardships develop beauty in the soul; they thrive on them; they bring out all the best in them; ease and comfort only leave them barren.

We still are carrying the financial loan from Malia’s adoption and now will be adding to that loan with Mercy. But nothing is hard for God. Without a sound or sign, from sources invisible and seemingly impossible, He will provide when the timing is right.” ~Judy, friend of Ting Ministries

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Read Sasha’s Published Book Chapter in the Latest Adoption Story Anthology

Ting Ministries is excited to announce the publication of Sasha’s book chapter, “Lessons I Learned as an Adopted Daughter.” Sasha was one of 28 voices in the adoption community to come together in the newest adoption anthology, “Hope for the Adoption Journey.” Compiled by Katherine Piper, the collection features stories of struggle and joy, a collection of stories meant to comfort and encourage readers from all parts of the adoption community.

Here’s an excerpt of what Sasha had to say about her chapter. You can read more on her blog HERE.

Natalya

[…]My chapter [in the anthology] focuses on exactly what the title suggests: lessons I’ve learned growing up as an adopted daughter and sister to other special-needs siblings. I believe that my parents have raised me with a different perspective on many issues adopted children face, such as: questions of identity, birth family, dealing with trauma and more. It has given me complete freedom from the struggles commonly faced by adopted kids. This freedom, rooted by an identity in Christ alone, has given allowed me to pursue my God-given passions to be a Voice for the Voiceless.

Started in my junior year, it is incredible to now see the finished book in front of me. A lot of things have happened since then – including the adoption of my two newest sisters and finding my birth family in Russia! As I wrote my chapter, I wanted to provide mothers, families, and other adopted kids a taste of the kinds of things my parents taught me, that have shaped who I am today. These lessons are hard. They take time and effort, patience and prayer. I remind myself of them every day.

But I also know these lessons are the truth – because Christ is in the center […]

You can read reviews and order Hope for the Adoption Journey: 28 Stories to Comfort and Encourage, on Amazon HERE.

 

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A CP Vacation: Completely Possible!

A special post from Director Stephanie Carpenter, mom of 7 -soon-to-be- 9 daughters with special needs.

It’s summertime! For many families, this is a time of fun… and wonder at what you are going to do to entertain all your kids who are now out of school for three months! For the parents of special-needs children, this may prompt even more worries or wondering about how to balance the needs of your able-bodied and special-needs children on the family summer vacation. As the parents of six moderately to severely disabled daughters (excepting our eldest), none of whom walk independently, Brian and I are often met with questions abut how we make vacation “work” for our family.

 

In the adoption and special-needs community, I am often approached by families who wonder how they will make their vacation an enjoyable experience for all their kids. For parents of special-needs children, there are often other things to be taken into consideration.

How will I get my non-mobile child onto the beach?

How many wheelchairs do we need?

What about other adaptive equipment?

 

While these are legitimate questions and I am not suggesting you do not bring the appropriate equipment for your child’s needs, our family would like to share how Cerebral Palsy (and other disabilities) does not have to hinder your summer vacation. Instead, we find it Completely Possible!

The beach…What a precious gift to watch our girls enjoy the ocean and the smells of the salt air and the sand between your toes (and the sand everywhere)! We want them all to be able to experience the fun at the level they are able. If they can swim in the ocean, or if they can only lay and feel the sun on their faces and breath the ocean air. We make it a point to bring all of our daughters to our beach vacation to experience this gift!

To make this experience possible, we have found that we can’t concern ourselves with “doing it by the book.”

Ellianna can’t walk and uses a wheelchair? Don’t worry about a cumbersome beach chair to wheel her out to the sand. We’ll carry her! If we can’t carry all of them, we’ll simply take a stroller gently through the sand.

Rachele, with her extensive brain injury, can’t play in the water? That’s okay! She can sit in the warm sun as we talk to her and give her snacks. One of us can watch Olyvia while the big girls play down by the shore!

Rather than focusing on what our girl’s can’t do, our family does what they are able.

This means a lot of personal sacrifice. It takes time, effort, energy and more to bring six special-needs girls to the beach and boardwalk. It means late nights, getting everyone ready for bed. Certainly, there’s less R & R for us as parents than one would hope for.

But is our life on this earth really supposed to be about our rest and relaxation? Our comfort? Or is it about something far greater? As Matthew 25:40 says:

The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

Likewise, when Jesus tells us to bring the little children unto Him, he does not add on with hesitation: only when it is convenient. Or, only when you feel like it.

When we see our little Avi, with her scoliosis and spastic quadriplegia, breathing in the ocean air with a smile on her face and giggling with joy, we see an image of Jesus Himself. As she looks off into the distance over the ocean, with her curls blowing in the wind, we wonder…if perhaps it is Avi who is closest to the heart of God and if her eyes see things Beyond this earth that we cannot.

Brian and I hope to encourage you to think about a different approach to summer vacation with special-needs. Ting Ministries also works to provide counseling and respite for adoptive/post-adoptive families. If you have a need, we’d love to hear from you. Please don’t hesitate to contact us.

In Christ,

Stephanie

 

 

 

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Let’s Talk About Moses…Guest Post from Sasha

Sasha, the Administrative Assistant and Web Designer for Ting Ministries, speaks about a Biblical adoption story we may tend to miss, and her own journey to finding her birth mom.

 

My Story: Russia & Redemption

Thank you for your encouragement, support, and prayers for Ting Ministries. In this month’s update, I’d like to share a few words the Lord has laid on my heart. Some of you may know that this coming fall, I will be a senior at Bucknell University. Next fall, I plan to pursue a Master of Arts in Religion (Biblical Studies track) at Evangelical Seminary. This spring, i am blessed to share about the open door the Lord has placed in my life. At the end of April, my Russian TA helped me find my birth mother, younger half-sister, and relatives in Russia! After I did an interview in Russian with my friend Maria, she helped me look through my adoption documents. After less than an hour of searching, she found my mom on Russian social media. Since then, it has been an incredible privilege to video call my mom, tell her I forgive her and that Jesus loves her, and learn more about the previously unknown circumstances surrounding my adoption. Just a small excerpt from my story follows and you can read more and watch the interview on my blog here.

My mother was very young when she was pregnant with me and when her dad (my biological grandfather, after whom I am named) took her to get a very late-term abortion. The force of the procedure is what caused my very mild Cerebral Palsy. When I was removed from the womb, doctors thought I’d be dead – but the Lord preserved my life! My mom stayed with me in the hospital until one day, when she came to visit me, I was gone. They had moved me to an orphanage, but didn’t tell my mom what had happened. For 21 years, she thought I was dead. On his deathbed, several years after my birth, my grandfather asked for my mom’s forgiveness for making her give me up. What a beautiful story of redemption the Lord has been writing and is continuing to write, for everyone involved…

 

Let’s Talk About Moses: What We Miss about this Biblical Adoption

As this new chapter in my life is unfolding, I find myself turning to the story of Moses. One thing I realized we don’t talk about when we talk about Moses is that…Moses was adopted. The Lord chose him to be saved from the life of a slave and to be given a life of privilege, so that one day, he would return to his people, his family, and lead them out of bondage (Exodus 4:18). We know that the Passover in Exodus foreshadows the ultimate sacrifice through Christ’s death on the cross. This new realization of adoption in Moses’ story only serves to add more assurance that adoption is at the center of God’s heart. When we accept Christ as our Savior, we are adopted into God’s family (Ephesians 1:5). I’d love to share more about my story and God’s Word with anyone individually, or at Bible studies, prayer meetings, a Sunday service, or other venues! Please don’t hesitate to contact me and Ting Ministries.

The Story Continues: Return 2 China

Not only does my family celebrate my adoption story the Lord is continuing to write and pray for my relatives, that they may come to know Jesus. We are also soon bringing home my two sisters Hope and Brittan! We plan to travel at the end of June and are only $3,000 dollars away from completing the adoption. If you feel led to help us in the final weeks of Hope and Britt’s adoption, you may give online at: www.paypal.me/Tingministries or send a check to our mailing address at the top of this letter. Thank you, dear friends, for your continuing encouragement and support.

 

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Ellianna Invites You…Pork BBQ Today!

 

 

Hi everyone,
Come out today and see me…support my sisters coming home from China! If you were not planning to come …come anyways…if it rains and your plans change come get some awesome Pork BBQ and hear Pastor Asif speak about orphans in Pakistan. Come purcahse a birdhouse I painted or eat some colored cupcakes I made. Hear about my ministry TING MINISTRIES. IT IS NAMED FOR ME…ELLIANNA YA-TING. HEAR about the work in many countries for orphans…I was once an orphan waiting for my mom and dad to come get me. Come help my mom and dad go get Hope and Britt!

Thanks and you will have fun and I will even blow up some balloons for you!! Come on…you know you want to come!
Fairland Brethren in Christ in Cleona near Giant food store. Today from 1-4 everything is by donation and you can have take out and no tickets needed.
Listen with your heart!
See you soon! Ellianna Yating

If you can’t come after all my convincing you can still help Hope and Britt
www.paypal.me/tingministries
Or Ting Ministries 29 East Poplar Street Lebanon Pa 17042